Turning No’s Into Wins: How to Overcome Rejection

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The blog you’ve all been waiting for! Rejection is a huge part of any career, especially in modelling. It can either make or break you, and that’s why only those with the right mindset succeed. I’ve been in this industry for 6 years now, and I still face constant rejection. But I’ve learnt to embrace it. In this blog, I’ll be sharing ways I deal with rejection and why shifting your mindset is the key to success. Master this, and the world is yours! This works in all areas of your life and all lines of work.

Shift your mindset: 

What is rejection? At its core, it’s just fear of the unknown. Most of us stress over outcomes that haven’t even happened yet, letting uncertainty plant seeds of doubt. But what if you flipped the script? Instead of assuming the worst, what if you believed that rejection was making space for something better?

This mindset shift changed everything for me. Now, whenever rejection stings, I catch myself at the start of a downward spiral and think—what if this is leading me to something bigger? I make a game out of it (maybe my inner child never grew up, lol). And it’s not just modelling. This applies to every area of life. Rejection isn’t a dead end; it’s just redirection. You’ll find yourself no longer fazed by all this rejection and constant no’s.

I love The Mindset Mentor podcasts; I just resonate with a lot of what he says, and it’s straight to the point. Click here to listen to my favourite episode on Spotify that helped me when I felt down from rejection. Listen to these when you’re in nature or on a walk. It hits differently. And remember, every successful person has faced rejection. Without it, life would be boring. It keeps the spark alive, pushing you to work harder and making it way more rewarding when you achieve your goals.

As many of you already know, I released my Model Mindset E-book, which is all about the modelling industry. It’s packed with lots of advice for aspiring, freelance, and signed models. I have a huge section on dealing with rejection alongside a bunch of exercises to work through to help change your perspective and mindset. These exercises honestly changed my career and thought process as well as many others.

Story time! My lesson in trusting the process: 

Recently, I had 2 major jobs on the line. One was a huge beauty campaign for a major brand that I had cast for and was at the final stage. The other job was for a huge car company. The dates clashed with each other, but one of the clients was taking too long to decide. Too long, to the point where the car company had to go with someone else. Then the other company dropped the option last minute. My agents and I took a risk, and unfortunately, both jobs were released. I was devastated! We really thought we had them, but the timing didn’t match up, and they just clashed. I was so frustrated and felt down about it, especially after putting in so much hard work, emotion, and dedication.

I let myself be sad and frustrated at life for an hour or so until I realised what on earth I was doing. Things happen, but I knew deep down something better would come in.

The next day I was offered another car job with an even bigger budget and more exposure, but then that didn’t work out either. A week later I found myself flying off to Paris to work with a dream brand that has been on my vision board since I was 15 years old. 

So this is your reminder: if something doesn’t work out, pick yourself up and stay on your game; something will come around that is even more aligned with your journey and goals or even bigger than you expected and thought you were capable of achieving. Trust the process; the unknown is so exciting. 

How to stop overthinking rejection: 

Journal

I write this in every single one of my blogs because I can’t believe people still don’t journal! You’re sleeping on it. Just get a piece of paper and write any thoughts that come into your mind. Bad and good. Set a timer for 10 minutes and just splurge onto that paper. You can be so vulnerable and honest with yourself because nobody will see it. It’s just for you. And afterwards, you feel so much better and realise what you were upset about and stressing over wasn’t so bad after all. It takes time; after a few journal sessions, you’ll feel the effects of it. Especially in this industry. It’s an industry that plays with your emotions and resilience.

Self-care

Take a break. Sometimes this sort of stuff can build up, especially if you haven’t checked in with yourself. These things can pop up at times when your life feels like it’s falling apart in other areas. Trust me, I’ve been there many times. The key is to tune into and listen to your mind and body. If you need to take a break and stop, do it! You’ll bounce back stronger and fresh again. Book out for a couple of days or a week and give yourself time to get back on track again. Take this time to reset your energy. You can read my blog on balancing work and balancing life, which gives some ideas.

Read and learn

Google and read about other models’ journeys. Talk to friends in the industry; feel free to drop me a message on Instagram. I’m always open to hearing about anything. I feel like it’s so hard to find a success story in modelling that isn’t nepotism. Let me be that person for you! Watch this space.

Meditations and affirmations

Practice letting go. There’s a tonne of meditations on YouTube for practicing detachment. I prefer to sit with some music on or in silence with the sound of nature and just breathe in and out. I then focus and try to understand what’s hurting me; I feel the pain of it and take a deep breath out to almost blow it away. I repeat affirmations in my head such as ‘what is meant for me will never miss me’ and ‘I am enough. My talent will be noticed.’ This helps rewire your brain and lift your vibration.

So, don’t get disheartened by the rejection. Whether it’s rejection from clients, agents, or friends. Just let it go. There is always something better out there for you. I have more on my personal story in my e-book, as I mentioned earlier in my blog, along with a load of tips and exercises to practice letting go of rejection. If you’d like to read more into this and practice, there is a workbook built into this e-book, so click here to grab your copy now. 

You’ve got this; rejection is just redirection! Always remember that. 

It happens to the most successful people. 😉 

Love,